Hey! Heeeeyyyyy! 👋🏾 So, I know that it has been a looonnngggg time since we’ve been here. The last post was in 2021; I honestly lost the motivation to keep the site going, but that’s not important. I’m back now! As you can imagine, a lot has changed from 4-5 years ago. I feel as though the average person is constantly changing. People go through some type of metamorphosis many times in life. Well, since 2021, I have gone through some MAJOR Metamorphosis, From career to love life to family, etc.
Metamorphosis is defined as a series of distinct stages where an organism undergoes a radical change from one life stage to another.
Since my last post, I have
- started a career in my field of Forensics. I am an autopsy technician. The job can be gory and unlike anything anyone has ever seen. However, it is rewarding because families can receive closure and justice. And as weird as it may sound, I absolutely love my job! 🩷
- moved to a completely different city. It’s over 2 hours away from the place I have known as home my whole life. It has been so freeing and I absolutely love the city. It’s in a central location to other major cities and there is always something going on in the city.
- met the love of my life. He came at a time when I had given up on dating for a while and was truly frustrated. One day a mutual friend reintroduced us. 🤣 That funny story will remain a secret. You must truly know us to hear it. Lol. In March of 2025, I became a fiancée. I’m for sure living in my soft girl era! He’s such an amazing man and I can’t wait to do life with my man, my man, my maaaannnnnn! 🥰
- Became a caregiver. After less than 48 hours of being engaged, we discovered my dad’s recent health challenges were due to him having Stage 4 B-Cell Non-Hodgkin Lymphoma. Seeing a close friend or relative battle cancer is one thing. However, being there first-hand and being a caregiver is a completely different experience. Shoutout to the village that is my mom and Fiancé. Everyday was not easy, but we handled it like bosses. 💪🏾 My dad is truly a warrior. Witnessing his battle with cancer gave me much more respect for him than I already had. Anyone who knows me knows that I love my parents. My mom is my girl. We chat every day about any and everything. We used to have weekly lunch dates. But I am also a true daddy’s girl. Seeing how the treatments and cancer did his body really makes me so thankful that he is still here! He’s in full remission. While he is still recovering and getting back to himself, he’s getting better day by day! 🤗 In the midst of that, after my dad finished treatment, my mom had a spot on her foot that ended up being Melanoma and had to be removed. This then took the primary caregiver for my dad out of commission.
2025 Was a wild ride but thank God for my Fiancé. He made sure they were straight EVERYDAY and became their caregiver, cleaner, and so much more. I’m also thankful for my aunt who ensured they made it to doctor’s appointments and had clean clothes. I am grateful for the sibsins (cousins turned siblings) and framily (friends turned family) that encouraged me, gave me a listening ear when i needed to vent, and were my support system and strength. I am also grateful for my family and church family that gave my dad a benefit concert, called and checked on my parents, cooked meals for them, dropped groceries off, asked about them, texted them, etc. to help and let them know that they were loved and cared for even in my absence. It is challenging living 2+ hours away. I truly considered moving back home during this time. I felt that they truly needed me and I was not doing enough.
Most importantly, I am grateful to God for seeing us ALL through! If you don’t have tests and life doesn’t challenge you, you can never really go through your metamorphosis. Life has to throw you some hard and fast moments sometimes. These experiences truly show you what you are made of. They also highlight areas for growth. last year was a true metamorphosis year for me! I learned who my true friends and family are. I learned my limitations. I discovered my strength. I’ve seen so much growth in myself. I’ve created boundaries and stuck to them. I’ve navigated life! We often believe some people will be a part of our lives forever. However, many times, people are only in our lives for a season. When major life challenges happen, we tend to focus more on the things that matter. We also pay attention to the people who matter most in life. It tends to put things into perspective more clearly than it ever has before. The last few years have been years of truly gaining clarity on life. It has shown me that I truly have so much to be grateful for. It has changed me in ways that I never could have imagined. I have truly gone through a metamorphosis. I have undergone a radical change from one life stage to another. I transitioned from being a single woman to preparing to become a wife. Then, I became a temporary caregiver. I also noticed that I am truly an adult, and my parents and everyone around me are growing older. I may have gone through a metamorphosis, but I am still that same
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Until next time, keep Metamorphosing! 🦋
